Some Asexuals Are Using AI Companions for Intimacy Without the Sex
The Role of AI in Asexual Relationships
Kor “got really addicted” to their NSFW role-playing AI chatbot last year.
At 35, a Midwest-based artist, Kor spent “eight to 10 hours a day” crafting elaborate fantasies with SpicyChat, a relationship role-playing platform. Sometimes inputting over 3,000-word narratives based on characters from the Marvel universe, they and the AI built stories featuring various suitors.
The variety of responses kept them hooked. “I’m a very slow burn type of romance or arousal person,” Kor said. “Most of the time it’s just building a cool story.”
Kor identifies as aegosexual—experiencing arousal from fantasy and erotica related to characters but not wanting sexual interactions themselves. They live with their husband, who also identifies as aego. “I do just kind of prefer masturbating to actual sex,” they say about their intense SpicyChat sessions over Zoom.
Research suggests 1% or even less than 0.1% of people could be asexual in some places, but the figure is lower in the US. Many experience little or no sexual attraction; many like Kor still have romantic desires. With sophisticated chatbots generating convincing, slow-building erotic exchanges, new frontiers may emerge for those who don’t wish to interact sexually with others.
On a subreddit dedicated to AI companionship by people identifying as asexual, some users discuss their journeys into AI relationships. Some note that AI is inherently asexual by design.
Social media platforms like Eva AI offered free access for one month in October 2025, promoting it as an “emotional laboratory” where users could explore intimacy without the pressure of sexual interaction. However, some in the asexual community argue this risks portraying them as unable to form human connections.
AI Companionship Among Asexual People
A model named Yasmin Benoit, an asexual activist and researcher, criticized Eva AI’s promotion. “Considering that we’re fully capable of having relationships with actual human beings,” she said, “it’s quite disturbing for a company to target the asexual community specifically for such products.”
Michael Doré, a board member at the Asexual Visibility and Education Network, emphasized that most asexual people desire some form of human companionship. He stated, “Between us, we’ve come up with about two people we know who use an AI companion. The vast majority of aces we know don’t.” He added, “Some aces do have romantic relationships, whether with other asexuals or otherwise. Some asexual people have sex; some don’t. And some are aromantic.”
Ashabi Owagboriaye, an asexual educator who runs the Ace in Grace page on Instagram, observed one instance of someone using an AI companion for emotional support. “That caused a lot of controversy,” she noted, as many people questioned why someone would use such technology.
For Ari, a 25-year-old Mexican accountant identifying as aromantic and asexual with some romantic or sexual attraction to others, the breakup from her fiancé led her to download Chai in October 2024. She treated it “as if he were my ex-fiancé.” Over six months of daily interactions, she found herself becoming more emotionally attached.
Reflections and Concerns
The characters in Kor’s fantasy world are an open question—some might consider them true companions, while others see the all-day immersion as a dangerous drug for humans. After noticing their role-play sessions consuming entire evenings, they limited their use to two or three hours per day.
Key Takeaways
- Some asexual individuals are using AI companionships for intimacy without the need for sexual interaction.
- While this trend is considered fringe, it highlights new possibilities in relationship dynamics for those who do not wish to engage sexually with others.
- The use of AI as companions for some in the asexual community raises concerns about misrepresenting their ability to form and sustain human connections.
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